Understand the impact
Make room for hurt, anger, uncertainty, and the questions each person brings.
Online couples therapy after betrayal · California
A place to start
after broken trust.
I offer online couples therapy throughout California for partners navigating sexual secrecy, compulsive sexual behavior, or broken agreements. We can talk through what happened, what each of you needs now, and what rebuilding trust might look like.
Let’s talk A free, 15-minute conversation.
Room for both of you
You don’t have to know the outcome yet.
You may want to rebuild the relationship, feel uncertain about staying, or have very different hopes. We can begin with those questions rather than assume you need to reconcile.
We’ll first discuss whether meeting together is appropriate and safe. If there is fear, coercion, intimidation, or violence, raise that privately so we can consider suitable support.
What we can work on
Honest conversations. Meaningful choices.
Talk with more clarity
Practice listening, expressing needs, and discussing boundaries with less defensiveness.
Connect words and actions
Explore what accountability looks like. Responsibility for harmful behavior stays with the person who chose it.
Decide what comes next
Consider your options at a pace that respects both partners. There is no fixed timeline or guaranteed relationship outcome.
Different needs, different roles
Support around the couples work.
I also work individually with people seeking recovery from sex and porn addiction. I do not provide standalone individual therapy for betrayed partners. We’ll discuss when separate therapists may be appropriate.
If an affair or broken agreement is the main concern, and addiction is not part of your story, you can also read how I approach infidelity recovery for couples.
If you are looking for more focused time, ask about a couples intensive. We’ll consider fit, safety, and the current format before making a plan.
Fees & getting started
Know what to expect.
A first conversation
The introductory consultation is free and lasts 15 minutes. It’s a chance to ask questions and talk about fit, availability, and next steps.
Simple, upfront fees
Individual and couples therapy are $200 for a 45-minute session. This is a private-pay practice. See fees and contact information.
A few common questions
You might be wondering…
Do we both have to know whether we want to stay?
No. We can talk about your different hopes and uncertainties, and whether couples therapy is the right setting to explore them.
Can one of us contact you first?
Yes. A consultation can clarify practical questions. We’ll discuss consent, privacy, and each person’s role before beginning joint treatment.
Does couples therapy guarantee that we will rebuild trust?
No. The work can support clearer conversations and decisions, but trust and relationship outcomes depend on many factors, including choices outside sessions.
Three experiences in the room
Recovery and trust
have different work to do.
One person may be focused on changing behavior while the other is trying to make sense of what happened. The relationship has its own questions, too. These processes can overlap without moving at the same pace.
The person who caused harm.
Accountability includes being truthful, keeping agreements, and acknowledging impact without requiring the other person to reassure you or stop asking questions. Explanations are most useful when they lead to responsibility and action.
The betrayed partner.
Your needs for information, boundaries, support, and time matter. A period of changed behavior does not create a deadline for you to feel safe, resume sexual contact, or decide whether to stay.
The relationship.
Couples work can make room for listening, agreed boundaries, and thoughtful decisions about what comes next. Relationship history can be explored while responsibility for deception stays with the person who chose it.
Rebuilding closeness should respect each person’s consent and readiness. When there is fear, coercion, or violence, a joint conversation may not be the right starting point; those concerns deserve individual consideration.
Questions for couples ↗ · Information for betrayed partners ↗ · A guide to difficult conversations ↗
Choosing the format
Regular sessions or an intensive?
A conversation you can return to
Regular couples sessions provide a place to revisit difficult conversations, discuss agreements, and consider what is happening between appointments. Each session is 45 minutes at $200.
More concentrated time
The separate couples intensive takes place across three days for $2,000. Its schedule includes individual meetings within one couples treatment plan and joint sessions.
The choice depends on each person’s needs, the circumstances, and whether joint treatment is appropriate. More concentrated time does not mean that trust will return sooner. We can discuss fit and availability during a consultation.
Start with a conversation.
Ask your questions, talk about what brings you here, and see whether working together feels right.