You may know that you want support and still feel uneasy about sitting with a group of people you have never met. What would you say? How much would you have to share? Would anyone understand?
You’re welcome to bring those questions to a first conversation with me. You do not have to decide whether group therapy is right for you before asking what it involves.
Start with a conversation about fit
At Therapy by Ben, the first step is a free, 15-minute consultation. We can talk about what brings you here, explain the group, and discuss current openings. A group time on the website does not mean a place is automatically available.
My men’s groups focus on recovery from compulsive sexual behaviors, including concerns people describe as sex or porn addiction. We’ll consider your goals, support needs, and whether the group is an appropriate place to work on them. You can also ask how group work might fit alongside individual therapy.
What do you actually work on?
The group combines guided discussion, reflection, practical recovery work, and accountability. The aim is to connect what you understand in a session with what you do during the rest of the week.
That work can include noticing situations connected to unwanted behavior, putting feelings into words, considering the impact of your choices, and identifying a next step you can realistically take. Listening matters too. Hearing another person describe a familiar struggle can open a conversation you might otherwise avoid.
Group is a place to work toward honesty and responsibility while treating one another with respect. You do not need to deliver a polished explanation of your life to ask whether you belong there.
Will I have to tell everyone everything?
Before you join, we’ll review participation expectations, boundaries, and privacy. If you are worried about discussing sexual behavior in front of other people, say so. Ask what kind of sharing is useful and how sensitive material is handled.
Confidentiality is a group expectation, but another member’s actions cannot be guaranteed. The American Psychological Association’s introduction to group therapy also explains this limitation. It is worth understanding before you decide to participate.
For online sessions, plan for a private space where other people cannot overhear you. We can discuss practical concerns about your setup before you begin.
Why use a workbook?
The Facing the Shadow workbook is required for my groups. It gives the work structure alongside conversation and support. We’ll confirm the appropriate edition and preparation before you purchase materials.
The first seven recovery tasks offer one framework for exploring patterns, taking responsibility, building stability, and finding support. They are subjects to revisit as your work develops. They are not seven deadlines or a promise that recovery will be complete after a set number of sessions.
Current groups, times, and cost
- Tuesday group: 5:00–6:30 p.m. Pacific.
- Thursday group: 5:00–6:30 p.m. Pacific.
- Online, for eligible participants physically located in California.
- Up to eight members in each group.
- $75 per 90-minute session, with a minimum 12-week commitment.
We’ll review the participation agreement, fees, and attendance expectations before you join. You can find the current details on the men’s recovery groups page.
What if I’m still unsure?
You can ask about a group without committing to one. Useful questions include: How would this fit with my individual therapy? What happens if I miss a session? What preparation is expected? How do we decide whether the group is helping me work toward my goals?
If you’d like to explore it, request a free consultation and choose men’s recovery group on the form. You can indicate Tuesday, Thursday, or either day. A brief overview is enough; save sensitive details for our conversation.
Start with a conversation.
Ask your questions, talk about what brings you here, and see whether working together feels right.